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  Insight #6 Reflecting on my experiences

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How you are Shaped includes several factors. Insight #5 looked at your Strengths and Abilities. Insight #6 looks at your experiences.

Insight #6 Reflecting on my experiences

Our experiences shape us. There are many kinds of experiences, but for now we will focus on four types of adult experiences:

  1. Your Work Experiences — How have your work experiences shaped you?
  2. Your Painful Experiences — Problems, hurts, trials-that have taught you
  3. Your Educational Experiences — What were your favorite subjects in school?
  4. Your Spiritual Experiences — Meaningful decisions/times with God

Insight 5 worksheet — Insight 6 Experiences

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Year End Reflection

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For close to 30 years, I have used the week between Christmas and New Year’s to do some self-reflection.
I reflect over the past year and evaluate how I did in life, work, spiritually, financially, etc. and then think about the New Year.
This self-reflection can be good.

For me it is a time I review (and revised as needed) my:

  • Personal Mission
  • Core Values
  • Roles
  • History
  • SHAPE (Strengths & Abilities, Personality – helps and blind spots, experiences)

I am trying to be sure they reflect what I think Christ wants in my life.
This is also the time I review my calendar for the next year, to be sure it reflects my values.
A few reflection questions I ask:

  • Do my statements reflect who I really am?
  • Am I becoming more loving and tenderhearted?
  • Am I treating my family and friends as I should?
  • Is my conversation becoming more righteous?”

I won’t send a new insight this week but encourage you to reflect on the five we have already covered:
Four from Who You Are?

  • Values
  • Roles
  • Mission/Purpose/Vision
  • Beliefs

And One from How You Are Shaped?

  • Strengths and Abilities

 

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Insight #5: Personal Abilities and Strengths

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How I am Shaped

In this series of exercises, we are going to look at how you are shaped. There are many facets we could include, but we are going to focus on four:

  • Abilities
  • Personality
  • Experiences
  • Spiritual Gifts (For Christians)

Insight #5: Personal Abilities and Strengths

Why Understanding Your Strengths Is Important

  1. People are most effective when they know and use their strengths.
  2. Many, if not most, people do not know their strengths.
  3. Because of misunderstanding Scripture, some Christians have one or the other theological misunderstandings on strengths.

We have an interesting paradox in the Christian community because we have two streams that impact this skill.

 “Total Weakness versus Total Strength”

The “holiness” stream emphasized the depravity of man to the degree that many people came to see any acknowledgement of personal strength as pride, i.e. sin. Some people in this stream seem to advocate a philosophy of “Total Weakness”.

  • They emphasize that we can do nothing in ourselves.
  • Their favorite verse is “Don’t think more highly of yourself…”
  • They seem to do everything they can to build a negative self-image

The other stream seems to advocate a philosophy of “Total Strength”

  • Their favorite verse is “I can do all things…!” sometimes to the extreme of forgetting “…through Christ.”
  • They emphasize “We are children of the King” and “We can do anything”.
  • They seem to do everything they can to build a positive self-image.

If we deny we have ability, we are denying God, for it is God who gives us strength and abilities.

If we take credit for our strength and abilities, we also deny God, for it is God who gives us these abilities.

  1. God has given every Christian some areas of strength.
  2. Almost all strengths taken to extremes can produce negative results.[1]

In this session we will focus on abilities and strengths. We will use four exercises and then a summary sheet

  • Exercise #1 – Abilities Profile
  • Exercise #2 – 26 Specialized Abilities
  • Exercise #3 – Personal Abilities and Strengths
  • Exercise #4 – Reflective Questions
  • Summary sheet

Bonus Worksheet for seeing the abilities and strengths in others.

Here is the link to the worksheets for this exercise: Insight #5 Abilities

 

[1] Marcum, Dave, Steve Smith, and Mahan Khalsa. businessThink: Rules for Getting It Right–Now, and No Matter What! New York: Wiley, 2002. Page 37

 

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Insight #4: What is my Core Theological Beliefs/Doctrines?

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Discovering your core theological beliefs is a process of introspection, study, and critical analysis. It involves moving beyond inherited beliefs to develop a personal, coherent understanding of your faith.

Key Steps to Discover Your Core Beliefs

1. Consider the Creeds: The Apostles Creed and the Nicene Creed have been embraced by followers of Christ for almost two thousand years. They provide a good starting point for reflecting on beliefs.

2. Consider your family and heritage: What were the core beliefs of your family and heritage? You may not embrace them but understanding them is helpful.

3. Deconstruct and Question: Life events and independent thinking often lead to doubts. Instead of ignoring them, embrace this deconstruction phase. Question what you believe and, more importantly, why you believe it. Be open to the possibility that your beliefs may evolve.

4. Engage in Self-Reflection: Set aside time for introspection to examine your thoughts, emotions, and motives. Questions to guide this reflection include:

    • “Why does the universe exist?”
    • “Why am I here?”
    • “Is there a God?”
    • “Is there good and evil?”
    • “What is truth??
    • “What is real?”

5. Seek Community and Dialogue: Discussing your beliefs with friends, mentors, or a faith community can provide valuable insights and challenges. Listen to different viewpoints and be prepared to articulate your own thoughts respectfully. This helps you to test if your reasoning is convincing to others.

6. Apply Your Beliefs and Test Them: Authentic faith should manifest in your actions and behavior. Test your beliefs by seeing if they align with your operational behavior and whether living by them produces positive “fruit” in your life and the lives of others.

7. Be Open to Growth: View your understanding of faith as a journey. Be open to new insights and the possibility that your core beliefs can be refined over time as you grow in wisdom and experience.

Many theological doctrines and beliefs are important to you but there are a few you are passionate about.

For example, I am part of the Assemblies of God who have “16 Fundamentals of Truth”. I believe all of them, but there are only 4 or 5 I draw a line in the sand about. These are my core beliefs.

What are the five or six core doctrines that are the foundation of your personal theology?

Pray: Lord, please help me to identify the theological beliefs which you desire me to hold as my very core beliefs.

Here is the link to the worksheet: Insight 4 belief

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Insight #3: MISSION/VISION/PURPOSE

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Driving in fog[1]

Imagine you are driving at night in the middle of winter. You’re going down a freeway at 65 miles an hour when all of a sudden you drive into a thick fog.

How do you feel the minute you realize you can’t see more than 15 or 20 feet in front of you?  Your initial response is probably a bit of panic. Most likely your foot immediately moved to the brake, and you slowed down.

You drive slowly as you don’t want to run into someone who has stopped or is going slower than you are. You are worried about someone running into you.

Then all of a sudden, the fog gets much thinker. Now you can only see 5 feet in front of you. You probably roll down the window and try to follow the lines on the highway. You are afraid to stop for fear someone will hit you, but it is impossible to go faster and not run off the road or into another vehicle. You can barely move forward – it is like you are driving with a blindfold over your eyes.

Then you start to emerge from the fog. Now you can see four, then six then ten lines in front of you. Now you can see the next turn in the road and then you break totally out of the fog and can see 200 yards in front and behind you.

What is your emotional response when you can clearly see?

You probably have a great sigh of relief and an easing of your muscles. Your foot moves off the brake and back onto the gas pedal. You pick up speed. Your hands stop sweating, you put your arm back on the armrest, you turn the radio back on and find yourself relaxing again.

The only thing that changed was your vision. To live your life without a mission/vision is like going through life in a fog.

“The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but no vision.” – Helen Keller

A personal mission statement is “a brief written expression of your overall purpose in like.”

For this exercise we will use the words mission and vision and purpose as synonyms. Use whichever word is most comfortable to you.

[1] Adapted from What Matters Most: The Power of Living Your Values. New York: Simon & Schuster,  2000. Page 106-107

Download the exercise here == Insight 3 mission

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Doing What Matter Most: Insight #2: What are my roles?

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Insight #2: What Are My ROLES?

Once you have clarity about your core values, look at where you live your values— in the context of your roles.

We all have many roles we fill.  At the same time, you may be

  • a Christian,
  • a learner,
  • a son,
  • a husband,
  • a father,
  • a brother,
  • a minister,
  • an employee,
  • a counselor,
  • a coach,
  • a friend,
  • a mentor,
  • a teacher,
  • an employer,

As an employee alone, you may have dozens of roles.  A helpful exercise for another time is to analyze your roles at work and to prioritize them.

But for now, we are looking for the primary roles you currently fill in your LIFE…not just work roles, but the roles where you live out your values today.  List the underlying role, not the specific practice, i.e. you are a father, not a homework tutor.

Finding Equilibrium

You don’t really balance roles; you find an appropriate equilibrium.

You should avoid putting all your time and emphasis on only one role. This is an almost sure way to experience burnout and disappointment.

Examples why not put all your emphasis on one role:

  • If you put it all on your job – at some point it won’t be there. Your company gets bought out, or they eliminate your division, or you retire. Then your whole world crumbles.
  • If you put it all on your kids – at some point they grow up and move out.
  • If you put it on a hobby or pleasure — at some point you are not able financially or physically to do it anymore.

Instead, every week includes multiple (at least three) of your primary roles. Doing this will make your life more enjoyable and productive. It will also help you weather the crisis we all experience in life. I have found including multiple roles in my week was a great help in keeping perspective and enjoying life.

Each week in your weekly review ask yourself:

  • What roles did I do this week?
  • Did I do them well?
  • Are there roles I should have included in my schedule?

Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life. — Dolly Parton

Work hard, have fun, and make a difference. — Colin Powell

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax. — Mark Black

If you want to change the world, go home and love your family. – Mother Teresa

You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles. – Zig Ziglar

Here is the link to the worksheet:  Insight 2 Roles

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Insight #1: Know Your Values

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I designed these leader insights for 6  young adults including my oldest grandsons. Every week or two I will post an insight and exercise. You can choose whether to do the activity or not, but I do encourage you to at least think about it.

You will find references to my faith because that is core to who I am.

I will have the insight and exercises as a PDF attachment. Feel free to adapt it and use it for developing others, but please keep my copyright.

I hope you find these helpful,

Mel

Leader Insight Download link — Insight 1 Know Your Values

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The Two Greatest Needs I see in the Church Today

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One of the results of growing old is you develop a long-range perspective. In looking at the Church today I see two great needs I would like to share and have you consider:

  1. The need for Follow-up/Discipleship of New Christians

I am thrilled when I see people getting saved and baptized in water in our churches. Every time I see a post or photo of someone being baptized in water my soul rejoices.

What I have come to see as the greatest need in the church today is for churches/Christians to have an in place one-on-one follow up discipleship program for every new believe. Jesus spent 3 years discipling His followers. Many churches have nothing in place to address this need and even more significantly, many pastors are not discipling anyone one-on-one themselves.

I often find myself wondering how many of those baptized in water will be mature and following Christ two years from now.

What strategy do you and your church have for following up and discipling every new believer, no matter what their age?

  1. The need for Servant leaders focused on Christ, not themselves.

We live in a society that makes us the center of everything. What will help me get ahead? What’s in it for me? How will this help my career? Unfortunately, this is sometimes even true of ministry leaders.

We have forgotten it is all about Christ, not us. The real question is what does Christ want me to be and do. It is not about personal power, pride, prestige, or promotion.

It seems for some “servant leadership” has become I want others to serve me and my goals.

Over the years I have discovered and observed, without true love for Christ and others, there is no servant leadership. If we do not love others and have a burden for them, I think we must not be spending enough time with Christ.

This was not meant to be a criticism of others, but a moment of reflection.

  • Who are you following up/discpling?
  • How is your love for Christ being reflected in your love for others?

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Year-End Reflection

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The end of the year is when a lot of us do some self-reflection. We reflect back over the past year and evaluate how we did in life, work, spiritually, financially, etc. and we then set our goals for the New Year. This self-reflection can be good.

For me it is a time I review my:

  • Personal Mission
  • Core Values
  • Roles
  • History
  • SHAPE

To be sure they reflect what I think Christ wants in my life.

This is also the time I review my calendar for the next year, to be sure it reflects what I believe God wants to fill my days.

A few reflection questions might be:

  • Am I becoming more loving and tenderhearted?
  • Am I treating my family and friends with godly respect?
  • Is my conversation becoming more righteous?”

Consider setting some goals that reflect the way God wants us to live and pursue His righteousness.

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How do you assess a church?

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As I have observed churches over the years I find myself continually asking, “Why do they do what they do?” “Does what they do align with Scripture? and sometimes “Why don’t they reflect Christ more?”

I have found that one or more of the following often explains why churches are the way they are:

  1. Their theological foundation and understanding.

Some churches are clearly seeking to live out their understanding of New Testament. It is clear that they have a solid Biblical and theological foundation for who they are.

Other churches are clearly lacking this. There foundation is more likely to be their heritage or personal preference, with little genuine thought of what God’s Word says. They are more than likely focusing on superficial forms and actions.

My understanding of the church in scripture is “Christian people demonstrating life under the Lordship of Christ.”

Some churches are built more on tradition and preference than the guidance of God through His word.

  1. Their contextual understanding of the people who make up their ministry area.

Some churches are real missionaries. They understand the people in their area: what their real and felt needs are, what the relate to, what has meaning to them. They understand the language of their community. Then they build bridges to the people in their area.

Others act as if everyone in their community is like them and they make no effort to understand or relate to those who might be different than they are. They do not take the time to learn the language or the culture.

We serve a missionary God who expects us to be missionaries.

Some churches are more like the castles of old with the draw bridges drawn up to keep out the outsiders.

  1. Their understanding of the needed systems to be a healthy missional church.

Some churches have identified the systems needed to be a Biblical church and have developed process to help them achieve desired outcomes.

Other churches are built on programs and events that may or may not be producing the desired result. But the sad thing is they are more committed to the programs than the results and outcomes.

The church needs to have processes and systems in place that lead people into Christ like living.

Some churches are busy running program, but seeing very little transformation in the people attending.

If the church is to represent Christ, it needs to:

  • Have a clear Biblical and theological understanding of what the church is to be and do
  • Understand the people that comprise their community
  • Have systems in place to ensure that they desire process and outcomes are happening.

Which of these does your church need to strengthen to reach your full kingdom potential?

 

 

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